When a relationship ends, emotions can run high. Many people find it hard to move on. But what happens when your attempts to stay connected with your former flame lead to legal trouble? The line between trying to salvage a relationship and stalking can be thin and it’s essential to understand where you stand.
Defining stalking
Stalking is a serious offense in California. The state defines stalking as willfully and repeatedly following or harassing another person with intended malice. It also includes making a threat to place that person in reasonable fear for their safety or the safety of their immediate family. The critical element here is the unwanted nature of the contact and the fear it instills in the other person.
What constitutes stalking?
Stalking isn’t limited to shadowing someone in a dark alley. Here are some actions that could be considered stalking:
- Repeatedly following someone in person, whether on foot or by vehicle
- Showing up uninvited at a person’s home, workplace or other places they frequently visit
- Sending unwanted and persistent communications, including texts, emails, letter or messages on social media
- Making repeated phone calls, including hang-ups or silent calls
- Using technology to track someone’s location or monitor their activities without consent
- Threatening the person directly or indirectly, causing fear for their safety
- Gathering information about the person through various means, such as online searches or contacting their friends, family or coworkers
Actions don’t need to be violent or overtly threatening for someone to consider them stalking. Understanding the difference between trying to reconcile and crossing the line into illegal behavior is necessary. If your ex has asked you to stop contacting them and you continue, you may be violating the law.
Moving forward
If you’re facing stalking charges, the first step to take is to stop all contact with your ex. Document any interactions you have had and gather any evidence that might support your case. Keep in mind that actions that seem harmless to you may be threatening to your ex. Seeking counsel may provide clarity on your situation and help you navigate the legal process. A legal professional may offer options tailored to your specific circumstances, ensure you understand the charges against you and provide recommendations on how to address them.